Resources

I provide counselling to all communities in Greater Vancouver including Surrey, White Rock, Burnaby, Richmond, New Westminster, Delta, Coquitlam, Langley, Abbotsford, Mission, and Maple Ridge.

Resources

Harvelle Hendrix’s Imago recipe for an everlasting relationship
Be KIND

Practice these four skills to develop strength, connection and lasting love in your relationship:

Know that your partner is not you! Accept & embrace the differences. Be an advocate for your partner’s separate reality and potential.

Increase your appreciation of your partner! Tell your partner, daily, what you appreciate about him/her.

No negativity! Make your relationship a sacred space by removing all negativity.

Dialogue always! Practice the Imago dialogue until it becomes second nature.

John Gottman’s “Four Horseman of the Apocalypse”
Be KIND

Are you experiencing any of the following in your relationship?

Criticism: negativity about your partner’s character.

Contempt: sarcasm, cynicism, name-calling, eye-rolling, & mockery.

Defensiveness: blaming & attacking your partner.

Stonewalling: tuning out, disengaging from, & avoiding your partner.

After studying marriages for 16 years, relationship expert John Gottman identified that the above four communication habits in a relationship predict future divorce with amazing accuracy. If you are experiencing even one of these on a regular basis in your relationship, therapy would be beneficial to prevent the pain and stress that come with letting it go unchecked.

Qmunity Vancouver

QMUNITY is a non-profit organization based in Vancouver, BC that works to improve the lives of the queer community through services, connection and leadership.

Sources Community Resources Society

Is a community-based non-profit organization in White Rock, BC, who offers subsidized counselling services. Staff and volunteers provide social wellness programs to support the community through leadership, education and volunteerism. Sources’ services address individual and community issues, such as isolation, addiction, mental illness, poverty, disability and conflict.

Collaborative Divorce

Is a better approach to navigating divorce that aims to be less stressful, less expensive, and avoid court.

Imago Workshop

Looking for some help for your relationship? This is the best weekend workshop in the greater Vancouver area, presented by two master Imago therapists, Maureen McEvoy & Tamara Adilman (and myself as the support therapist). The psycho-educational workshop teaches tools that enhance communication, conflict management, and connection. These tend to fill up, so click below to register and save your spot!

Greater Good Science Center

Don’t have to time read parenting books? Here are some helpful short videos developed from ongoing child development research at UC Berkeley. They focus on parenting key principles and what you can do at home to raise your kids to be successful, kind, and confident people.

Brené Brown

Brene Brown studies human behavior and is one of the most profound, enlightening people I’ve come across. Here she is presenting on vulnerability and connection, and her take home message is the way to have truly deep human connection is to be vulnerable with others. Everyone in a relationship should watch this.

The Imago Dialogue

Dr. Ben Cohen gives practical advice to couples looking to improve their communication.

The Polyvagal Theory

Want to know a little more about the complexity of our nervous system and social behavior? Here is a 30 minute video presented by Seth Porges, who does a great job explaining how our body and brain respond to varying degrees of threat, from minor daily interactions with your partner all the way up to a trauma response.

Emily Nagoski explains how to have a great sex life!

How can we unlock the door to our own authentic sexual well-being? Sex educator Emily Nagoski suggests that the key is realizing that we are all normal, whatever our proclivities. In this playful but informative take on sex positivity, she delves into the science of sexuality to demonstrate how we can shed our insecurities and define pleasure on our own terms.

A Neuroscience Love Song

Check out this video that explains the hormones and neurotransmitters released while we fall in love….

Oprah & Imago

How Your Childhood Affects Your Adult Relationships | Oprah’s Lifeclass | Oprah Winfrey Network

Mike Birbiglia: The New One

About to have a baby? Just had one? Already a parent of 4? Calling all parents! Get cozy on the couch and spend a night watching Mike Birbiglia’s Netflix special (and book )The New One. He opens up about his life as a dad with a balance of humour and vulnerability that all of us can relate to but some of us don’t like to share with others. Vulnerability leads to connection and we are missing that very much right now. We all need a good laugh and a reminder that we all struggle and that’s okay. This special could be just what your relationship needs. All we can do is our best, grow and learn to be better, and aim to be good enough parents.

Zero Negativity Kit

Geared toward couples who have some experience with Imago theory, this kit will track your progress in removing negativity from your relationship and facilitate the experience of transformation. It provides a procedure on how to monitor your relationship to regulate your negative exchanges and how to repair your relationship when you digress from connecting into negativity.

Love Language Quiz

Take the 5 Love Languages® official assessment to discover your love language and begin improving your relationships. Your love language profile will explain your primary love language, what it means, and how you can use it to connect to others.

An Introduction to Imago

At some point in their relationship, couples often find themselves struggling with anger and shock, despair and sadness. Some are newlyweds, and can’t understand how they have plummeted from the heights of love and glory into a swamp of
hopelessness and conflict.

About Sensorimotor Psychotherapy

Sensorimotor Psychotherapy provides clients with tools to deal with disturbing bodily reactions, and they frequently report feeling increasingly safe as they begin to learn how to limit the amount of
information they must process at any given moment by focusing attention on sensation.

Has some time opened up for reading?

I listened to an interview with Glennon Doyle and bought her latest book, and it’s pushing me to think differently about how I live my life. This book is about overcoming fear and living life as your fierce, courageous, authentic self. As we all have more time to reflect on ourselves, think about what you fantasize about doing. What do you keep coming back to? If you listened to the fire inside of you, what is it burning to tell you? The take home message: Be who you are.

Recommended Books

  • click here to purchase Imago Relationship Therapy books for your marriage, parenting, and your own personal growth.
  • Whole Brain Child (Developing Mind) Is a great book on your child’s developing brain and how parents can talk to and help foster their kid’s emotional development and coping skills.
  • Boy Smarts Mentoring Boys For Success At School – Here is a great book written by a local South Surrey educator and counsellor, Barry MacDonald , who is advocate for boys. He offers research based, insightful ways to teach and raise boys that will help them to thrive.
  • Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids, which stresses the importance of managing your emotional reactivity so you can connect with your kids.

 

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Grace McDonald

1480 Foster Street #26 White Rock, BC V4B 3X7

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A Tribute to Anne Walsh

Anne is a local talented artist who lives in Crescent Beach, and her paintings capture the beauty of our community. I’m honored to have her work on my website, to illustrate the importance of taking care of your family.

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