How do I know if I have a healthy relationship?

Healthy relationships don’t just happen, they are built and both partners must work on improving themselves first as well as the partnership. Here are 10 important characteristics of a healthy relationship:

  1. Time Together – The very definition of a relationship: “the way in which two people are connected.” Go on dates, video chat, and make each other a priority with time.
  2. Time Apart – It’s also healthy to have separate interests, friendships, and hobbies too. You’ll both grow as individuals and appreciate each other more.
  3. Boundaries – Give each other privacy and personal space, and know where you end and your partner begins.
  4. Safety – Both partners feel safe without any physical, verbal, sexual or emotional abuse.
  5. Trust – Trust is a key component, and you must be vulnerable. Time to build will vary, but you should be able to rely on each other’s loyalty and honesty overall.
  6. Communication – Open and honest communication while sharing your wants, needs, and feelings – even when they differ from your partner’s.
  7. Managing Conflict – Every couple experiences conflict from time to time, and the key to managing your differences is connecting without insults, name-calling, sarcasm, and other types of negativity.
  8. Teamwork – A couple in a healthy relationship views themselves as a team, and teams work together – they don’t compete against each other.
  9. Intimacy -Mutually satisfying sexual relationship and the ability to share thoughts, feelings, and needs with one another. Physical and emotional intimacy maintains the connection.
  10. Commitment – Maintain your commitment with boundaries between your relationship and the outside world. Work to block any “exits” in the relationship with an effort to thrive.

When you hit a roadblock, you work on rebuilding that connection again, which may include seeking therapy or online relationship advice.

Written by: Norene Gonsiewski, LCSW

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