RUMI POEMThis being is a great houseEvery morning is a new arrival.A joy, a depression, a meanness,Some momentary awareness comes,As an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all,Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,Who violently sweep your houseEmpty of its furniture. Still treat each other honourably,She may be cleaning you out for some new delight.The dark thought, the shame, the malice,Meet them at the door laughing,And Read more [...]
What’s a main reason that relationships fail? Communication. Yes, thats right! Misunderstood, negative, and avoided communication derails relationships.
Good news! There is a simple technique I teach to couples that dramatically improves communication in peoples relationships, so get excited!Maladaptive communication is leading factor for relationship breakdown.If you think about your own relationships, something small can sometimes turn into a big miscommuncation. People come Read more [...]
Haven't we all said to ourselves over and over, "if I knew what I know now, I would have..." But, that's the point of life, learning, growing, making mistakes...and how could we know how to do something we've never done before? It's important to have compassion for yourself and not beat yourself up when you make a mistake out of inexperience. However, if you keep doing the same thing over and over, and it's not working, but you expect a different, effective result, this is when you need to reflect Read more [...]
Attention everyone in their late 20s and early 30s! Mark Manson has put together 10 life lessons to be aware of in how we all live out our 30s. I am currently in my 30s, and definitely am more evolved than I was 10 years ago. If only we could all know what we know now and enlighten our younger selves. But life doesn't work like that, and it's the way we learn - making mistakes and overcoming them give us so much. It would be helpful to take note of messages we want to be mindful of, so we can be Read more [...]
What distinguishes Imago Relationship Therapy from other types of therapy it that it provides an immediate, positive impact on relationships and tools to manage conflict in a way that feels safe and supportive. Imago consists of several important principles: we are born in relationship, wounded in relationship, and heal in relationship. In addition, we find ourselves attracted to someone who fits an unconscious profile of our primary caregivers and our lost parts.Imago also stresses the idea that Read more [...]
Grace’s StoryI have experienced a handful of previous long-term relationships before my recent marriage. There were definite issues in those relationships, however, with my current partner, these issues are not as present. If anything, he is my lover and my healer, and that is why I married him. For me, I want to be responsible and intentional in making my marriage the most it can be, so it will last. I want to do work on myself and with my partner, so we both get the love that we want. I feel Read more [...]
What is Imago therapy and how can it work for your relationship?Imago therapy is based on the idea that your partner is your image of love. Your partner provides healing and helps you to experience growth. You learn to listen and hold onto your reaction that comes up, so you can be present and attentive for your partner. Plus, you learn to take responsibility for your reactivity and feel fully alive within yourself, which improves your connection with your partner.Have you ever wondered the Read more [...]