Relationships are critical to our development. The brain needs connection to develop to its fullest emotional potential. The limbic brain, in charge of emotional development, needs environmental stimulation (that's us parents) to function well. Good limbic functioning means successfully learning to connect with others and identify and regulate feelings. Research has found that extended eye contact affects blood pressure and heart rate, supporting that our brains crave connection.The brain Read more [...]
M.O.V.E. is an acronym for a communication tool to address the immediate, emotional needs of your child. What I like about M.O.V.E. is that it gives you something easy to remember and implement when you are having a hard time with your child and can't think clearly. I have many opportunities to practice M.O.V.E. with my kids and so will you. Here are the four things to keep in mind:
When your child is speaking to you, (or screaming), listen to their words, and mirror back what you see Read more [...]
My older son is full of energy and curiosity, as he's in the exploration stage of development (18 months to 3 years old). I sometimes struggle with my expectations of his behaviour and being mindful what's appropriate for the stage of development he's currently in. Here's a quick summary of this stage:Your toddler's tasks in this stage - development of motor skills (running, using a fork), environmental discovery, and differentiation (maintaining a sense of self as an independent individual, Read more [...]
Parenting Principle of the Day - It is our goal, as parents, to nurture competence rather than compliance. We are teaching our kids how to be successful in the world in all areas of life. This means facilitating their development of self-esteem and confidence and giving our kids the message that they are capable. Point out and praise their strengths and talents. Support and believe in their decisions. Give them lots of opportunities to practice new skills, make mistakes, and learn how to recover Read more [...]
How to Choose a MateThe one quality that stands above all others in the search for a mate
Published on August 4, 2013 by Alex Lickerman, M.D. in Happiness in this WorldPhoto: Serge MelkiWhen searching for a mate, most of us carry around a list of criteria or qualities that we tell ourselves we're looking for. A brief perusal of any Internet dating site yields many such lists: "A sense of humor, a sense of adventure, and good teeth" says one. "Owns his Read more [...]
A colleague sent this to me, and I had to share it:The below is a totally true story:Gary was a boy in a elementary school in Pittsburgh who was known throughout
the school as a big behavior problem.He was disobedient and disrespectful. Gary was the class clown or class
terror, depending on how you wanted to look at it.One day he was sent down to the principal's office (for about the 50
billionth time) because of a "disciplinary infraction" on his part.The principal met with Read more [...]
How Can You Put an Extramarital Affair Behind You, If You Continue to Discuss It?
By Anne Bercht - March 4, 2014Listen now! Complimentary teleseminar: Help for Betrayed Women, December 9, 2013Complimentary teleseminar: 3 couples share their stories of healing, December 10, 2013Question: In regards to your statement on your website: (listed below), I would like to know how you were able to "live in the present" and still discuss the affair over and over as needed? How Read more [...]
How marriage can save your life
New research shows getting married and staying married may be the best thing you can do for a longer, healthier lifeby Kate Lunau Dave and Joyce Mayne, who met on a blind date, have been married 33 years. They live in Elmvale, Ont., near Barrie, and have two adult children. “We’re bikers,” says Dave, 60. “We probably put 20,000 clicks on the Harley every summer. Joyce loves to say, ‘What other holiday is there where you’re Read more [...]
8 Guaranteed Ways to Emotionally F*ck Up Your KidsOur children are the lights of our lives. We all start off as parents envisioning nothing but success, love and happiness for them. However, these dreams often do not manifest because they are not getting the important things they need to become disciplined, mature and motivated adults. The following are eight parenting f*ck-ups that will guarantee your child will suffer from depression, anxiety, anger, tense family relationships, Read more [...]
"Babies Ruin Bodies"
An Ode to my Postpartum Body.
(Unknown Mother: http://weseekjoy.blogspot.com/2013/12/babies-ruin-bodies.html?m=1)Before I became pregnant, someone told me, "don't have a baby, babies ruin your body."It has been over a year since Anabel began her life. This time last year she was a microscopic speck inside of me, and we were announcing our pregnancy. Between then and now, I have gained and lost fifty pounds. Four months after her birth, and my body still carries proof Read more [...]