Parenting Principle of the Day - Children's acting-out behaviour usually needs de-coding. It is often a protest against them feeling a loss of connection with their parents. Remember that everyone makes sense all of the time. A child may behave unkindly, which is not ok and needs boundaries, but underneath this behaviour is a need the parent needs to uncover and figure out. Usually when you think about the bigger picture, there are other things going on, like parents fighting a lot for example, Read more [...]
Here are four more to keep in mind:
- "Getting" children is core. (Understanding from the child's viewpoint). Find a way to be in your child's shoes, especially when you find yourself in a power struggle.
- Attunement comes from fully listening and fully loving the unique "otherness" of the child. Remind yourself that your child is an other, separate from you. They think, feel, operate, and like things differently that you do. Respect and embrace the differences.
- Deep listening is Read more [...]
I am listing below the principles of parenting. There are 10, so I'm breaking them up, and focusing on a couple at a time. All we can do is keep these in mind and aim to do our best, (remember - increase consciousness, decrease reactivity). Here they are:
Children do best when their emotional needs are met
Though it can be exhausting, our job as parents is to meet our kids' needs. You know your children well and know what they need. When you witness your child in need, help them work through Read more [...]
Be less reactive and more conscious! Set this as your goal, and you’re doing a good job. We cannot be responsive, regulated, and available to our kids 100% of the time. Do the best you can to manage you’re reactivity. #imagoparent #consciousparenting #connectedparentsthrivingkids #gracemcdonaldcounselling
A child who sees his parent in the process of becoming a conscious person will be equipped to do the same in his own life and will contribute to the increasing consciousness of our species ~ Harvelle Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt #imagoparent #consciousparenting #connectedparentsthrivingkids #gracemcdonaldcounselling