Make an agreement with your partner to practice no negativity. This means no put downs, blaming, criticism, or anything where you make your partner feel “less than”. You can still speak your mind and disagree without being negative. Use “I” statements to express yourself, explain what comes up for you when your partner does certain things, and be intentional in what you have to say. Talk in a way that promotes listening and listen in a way that promotes talking. Listening to your partner doesn’t diminish you, rather, it enlarges you. Try this and see how it goes!