Relationships are hard work! While we should aim to be KIND to our partners at all times, we should also be mindful of ways to not behave. John Gottman’s research shows that the following are predictors for relationships ending.
John Gottman’s “Four Horseman of the Apocalypse”
- Criticism: negativity about your partner’s character
- Contempt: sarcasm, cynicism, name-calling, eye-rolling, & mockery
- Defensiveness: blaming & attacking your partner
- Stonewalling: tuning out, disengaging from, & avoiding your partner
So, if you are doing any or all of these on the regular, cut it out! This may be a strong sign that it’s time to seek counselling. Therapy is cheaper than getting divorced. #gracemcdonaldcounselling